Posted by Patrice: In Reply to:male sexual healthposted by jake: Masterbation allows us to fantasize, to dream and much of our excitement from sexual activity is from our brain. After being married a long time, having excitement with our partner may get boring if we and our partners aren't open to learning how to play during sex! Sometimes when sex fulfillment becomes obligation, or having been denied a number of times, or just our familiarity can lose our interest in our partner's participation. Try having your partner masterbate you and you her for a change and try other ways of fulfilling fantasies with one another. A bit of effort for both of you can lead to quite a lot of enjoyment! Good Luck!