I suppose many people wondered why I wrote about complaint and spitefulness. Now it's time for truth. My problem since I started to work at an extra-departmental organization was:
I had lunch with another woman in my department and a few more women in other department- let me call us'lunch mates'. One of them was a real complainer. Almost every day, she was complaining mainly about her children and neighborhood. There was another complainer, and when those two sat together, endless complaint fights went on. It was unbearable. Once I tried to stop them. Then, she said impassively "I'm living in an idle fancy". I threw the towel.
Anyway, the problem was solved by a really, really simple way:I left the lunch mates and stopped having lunch with them. Since then, my negative feeling is disappearing. They were literally poisoning my mind.