Parents Are Apparently Pulling This Weird Stunt To Not Invite The Whole Class To Their Kids' Birthday Parties

Parenting is a constant game of comparison and self-doubt. Do other parents have it more "together" than you do? Are you doing any of this right? What does "right" even mean?

Well, recently over on r/Parents , Redditor Inick876 wrote about a parenting incident that will probably make you feel a little better about however you're managing.

"My 6-year-old came home from school so excited that her friend invited her to her birthday party," they wrote. "This girl and my daughter are in the same friend group at school, and she hasn't mentioned any issues. When I opened the invitation, it was blank."

Related: "We've Been No Contact For 12 Years Now": 17 Unhinged Mother-In-Law Stories That Will Leave You Absolutely Speechless

"My heart sank, but I hoped it was a misunderstanding. The girl even mentioned to my daughter that she hopes she can come to the party and was telling her about the fun things that were planned. Turns out the mom had to hand out invites to the whole class, but only wanted to invite a few kids, so everyone else got blank invites.

"I tried to play it off as I had to check to see if we were free, hoping she'd forget about it. She eventually did, but a few girls in her class brought it up again. My daughter is a very quiet, sweet kid at school, and this just seemed mean and really hurt her. The class has a directory, so invitations could have been mailed, emailed, or texted. Parents are cruel, these kids are in Kindergarten!"

Some people thought it must surely be a misunderstanding. "My daughter was invited to a birthday in kindergarten and brought home a cute invention that the child filled out," one parent wrote. "Details were missing so I called the mom and she was completely unaware that her daughter planned a party for herself lol."

Related: Adults Are Sharing The "Annoying" Things Their Parents Did That Ended Up Changing Their Lives For The Better

The original poster (OP) told commenters that the invitation "had words like 'who, what, where' printed but no details" filled out, and that the mother of the birthday girl didn't respond to her text asking about it. Plus, they said, "multiple girls in the class received blank ones."

One person wrote that it was an incredibly disrespectful way around a rule at some schools that every child has to be invited to one's birthday party. "I would be livid," they wrote. "What a dumb 'loophole' for the everyone gets an invite rule. I bet that mom felt so smug about it too like she beat the system."

"That mother is and put this lightly, a moron!! It is fine to only invite a few of the class. It is fine to not want everyone there. BUT what she did is outright rude," this parent responded. "If you only want some to attend you find another way, ask for phone numbers and put on your big girl pants and send a message directly."

Related: 25 Screenshots That Prove Some Parents Should Reallyyyyy Not Have Access To Their Children

OP wrote back that the class even has a directory with addresses and phone numbers.

A lot of people suggested, again, that it seemed like the blank invites were a mistake, but that if they were intentional, OP should raise the issue with their daughter's teacher.

OP wrote that they "naively" thought it might have been a mistake at first, too. "My daughter's name was written on the envelope so this was done with purpose," they said.

They also shared that they tried to introduce themselves to the mother in question at a class party and were basically ignored.

Related: 17 Screenshots Of Clueless Parents Who Made A Decision That Was, Well...Not The Best

Some commenters still thought it was a stretch to assume the worst...

...but that if the move by the other mom was intentional, it was a terrible look.

So, do you think this was a big misunderstanding or a parent being intentionally malicious? And parents, have you heard of a "blank invite" to a child's birthday party? PLEASE let me know in the comments.

Also in Parents: 23 Screenshots Of The Wildest Messages Toxic Parents Had The Gall To Send Their Kids

Also in Parents: "My Parents Were Terrible At Parenting": People Are Sharing The Suuuper Messed-Up Rules And Habits They Grew Up With, And It's Eye-Opening

Also in Parents: This Woman's Video Allegedly Being Discharged From A Hospital During Active Labor Is Going Viral For Being "Absolutely Disgraceful"

Read it on BuzzFeed.com