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Re: Trouble erecting, premature ejactulation.
Posted by performance anxiety:
In Reply to: Trouble erecting, premature ejactulation. posted by Xanatos:
What you probably have is Performance Anxiety - when guys have trouble "getting it up".
It can happen whereby you do get erect, and as you're about to have sex,
you lose your erection, or it can be when you're actually in the course of having intercourse,
you lose the erection, or you don't get erect at all. So it can happen in any of those kind of ways.
Usually what happens is that the person is focusing more or less on the final goal, which is orgasm or
pleasing the partner with an orgasm, and not really focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the
sexual encounter, focus more on the
relationship and the sensory experiences that they're
having as opposed to the final goal -- more focusing on the process rather than the product.
There is actually a multitude of different treatments. One of the treatments that was developed some time ago by Masters and Johnson is what is known as a sensate focus technique. Through a series of four stages, what a person begins to learn to do is to stop focusing on the end result, which is orgasm, and worrying about whether or not you can go ahead and achieve that orprovide your partner with the opportunity to achieve that, and start focusing more on what the sensory stimulation is like, what it feels like to actually enjoy being stimulated, what are the ways in which you can go ahead and pleasure each other, and it takes the focus off of what's happening at the end. So you'll start off with a stage where you'll keep your clothes on, and you'll actually just go ahead and touch each other and communicate with each other. Once you're doing that for a while and you're comfortable with that, you'll move to the second stage,where they'll be caressing and touching and communication without clothes. The third stage is actually being inside your partner but not thrusting, and the last stage is actually thrusting. But the focus is on the sensations. That's why they call it "sensate focus."
Viagra
or generic Viagra
is the drug of choice nowadays if you're going to use a drug treatment for erectile dysfunction/impotence.
It doesn't work to give you an erection. What it does is keeps the blood in the penis. You need to take
it a half hour to an hour before you're going to have intercourse, because it has to get to your penis.
You have to wait for certain metabolic things to happen, and then you also need to be stimulated.
Once you're stimulated, what Viagra or generic Viagra does very nicely -- it works about 80 percent of
the time -- is it keeps the blood in the penis, so it really keeps the hydraulic system, if you will, going
and enables people to last longer and have second erections, that sort of thing.
Though erectile dysfunction and other sexual hindrances can have biological causes, for many the
problem is psychological. Performance anxiety can be a serious obstacle to a fulfilling sexual
relationship, but it can also be overcome.
For more medical help and advice find a sexual therapist
or doctor
near you.
