< Lost-contact client > We can find 2 different types of clients: long term clients, lost-contact clients.
The clients who end the counseling after the last session to wrap up are not the lost-contact clients. If the clients feel uncomfortable with the counselor, they do not reserve the second session. So they are not the lost-contact clients either.
Why do they stop the counseling all of a sudden without any notice?
1) The clients are told by their family or friends “you are the easy target”, “you are the money tree for the counselor”, “you’ve been had”, or “he enjoys confusing you” and these bad advices lead them to quit.
2) The clients afraid of being abandoned decide to leave the counselor before the counselor gives up, even if the counselor is not planning to give up.
3) The clients being a drama queen like a tragedy heroine, get mad at the counselor who does not follow their scrip(s). Because the counselor is not there to support their sad scripts but works to help them out of the mess, the counselor does not follow the scripts.
4) The clients who found the problem or the topic to solve are unhappy to face the fact. They think the problem is too difficult to solve and they think it is much better to live with the problem rather than getting through. They do not know the haven is right there beyond the mountain called “problem”..
Sometimes, they have several reasons.
But it is very sad that they decide to quit in the middle of counseling treatment.
I understand it seems that they are walking in the broad and endless field. If you quit, there is no fruit No root, no fruit.
If you quit, the effort will be wasted. Quitting will produce nothing, even one piece. If you do not complete, you will not get any hint to choose the way to go at the cross road in future. If you do not continue or bring your all ability to solve the problem, you will get only one thing which is a rule to loose. This rule will lead you to choose they way to loose anytime. You will choose only the words or the actions to make you loose.
The will power of our subconscious mind is very powerful. Once your subconscious mind gets the rule to loose, the subconscious mind will not fail to bring you the chance to loose. The subconscious mind will do anything to complete this rule by all meas. You may wake up late on the examination day. You may misspeak to your boss. You may easily find many ifs. You may lead your people to make you in trouble. You may find the reason to get mad at. You may have careless mistakes. You may transit to a wrong train.
Finally, the decision to quit in the middle of counseling gives you the complicated complex problems you need to fix, It is really pity that these people do the same thing also in the daily life. I really want to explain on this mental background some other day, but the people do one or more of the above 4 actions definitely have these problems in relationship with others in their family and/or the society although they do not aware of these problems.
To avoid having complex problems, I just hope you will complete the counseling until we both agree to end up.
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