Recognizing Love That Brings Happiness: Q&A — Family Issues and Relationships —
Q 23: Because I was abused by my parents, I don’t really understand what an “ideal family” is. Because of this, I’m afraid of getting married, becoming a wife, and raising children as a mother… . Could you please give me some advice on how to live my life from here on out?
A Amalie Abuse does indeed become a trauma that tends to repeat itself.
But please try to look at the bigger picture. If you understand the law of cause and effect, being abused means that at some point in the cycle of reincarnation, you yourself were the abuser.
When you consider that the soul is eternal, every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
Your present existence is here so that you can experience the pain of having hurt others in that past life.
Based on that perspective, God is asking you, “Well then, what will you do in this lifetime?”
One possible answer might be, “I can’t believe in love because I’ve been hurt.”
However, even so, it is up to the individual to decide whether—having realized the importance of believing in love—they will choose to believe in love and live a strong life this time around, even if they carry some trauma.
Therefore, rather than determining which answer is right or wrong, the question is about the degree to which each soul has learned love as a child of God—it is a test of the maturity of that learning.
Depending on what kind of life you decide to live in this lifetime through your own free will, the standard of what is “right” will change.
No matter how well you understand what the “ideal example” might be, it’s impossible if you can’t put it into practice for yourself. That is why free will is guaranteed.
It’s not a matter of right or wrong; please choose strictly according to your own will.