This time I would like to talk about the typical reaction #1 which I mentioned in the last mail magazine. → 1) The clients are told by their family or friends “you are the easy target”, “you are the money tree for the counselor”, “you’ve been had”, or “he enjoys confusing you” and these bad advices lead them to quit
Sometimes we find people who act as their friends or family advise but not appreciate as a part of reference. He does not know but he decides always not to resist others’ advice. Why does he follow others?
He has his own reasonable reasons. His reason can be; “in circumstance I should not act selfish” “I have trouble which is worse than the previous problem” “It is very childish if I act against family” “They are not in a good atmosphere I can speak about my opinion” “I trust his idea”, etc.
Normally, these people do not respect their own feelings. They do not try to assess the liability of advice. This decision makes problems worse. Always, he can not get to the goal he wanted to reach at. He just follows others without solving problems. He might feel emptiness but prefer rather than expressing himself.
He has a subconscious idea stops him to decide by himself He can not decide if his decision is suitable or not,
The reason is that his subconscious mind has one or some ideas as follows: “My decision might be resulted in a bad happening.” “My decision might not be suitable.” “They might think I am acting against them”.
These ideas were created in his long childhood. It is very difficult for him to change the way to think to new one. His subconscious mind think decision making by himself is not good so that changing to new idea makes him insecurity.
If you are looking for some reasons to avoid decision making, speaking against someone, or decision to do something , you might have an injunction to stop doing,
Please think twice if you have this injunction or not when you are not positively taking the new step to the new world, the place you can find something.