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2019.02.08

As I confessed at the end of last month, I married last November.
But the desire for marriage itself aside,
To be frank, I had never dreamed of typical wedding ceremony in our country that I've attended several times, while I thought that wedding is an important phase in life for a couple and both families.
Simply because; I've never lived problem-free standard life as this society expect of women -for example, I experienced psychotic depression young , so I was reluctant to expose my past in front of strange people at wedding reception, with such as motion pictures about the bride and groom and speeches.
And I've frequently heard of vast expenses for wedding ceremony and reception, which is another source of indignation.
Real lives of couples after wedding is more important, isn't it? -This question is nothing new; common and proper opinion now.

Putting aside some feminists' insistence that marriage is a social product of male-chauvinism system in order to enclose and control women .

As is already well-known, in our country, younger generation are negative about marriage from financial concerns .
Due to unfavorable employment and decreasing disposable income, especially men are unconfident to support family.
As for this, we must press panjandrums to wake up and smell the coffee before pressing women to marry and have babies and increase population .
On the other hand...
I was told at a costumer that
Then, bridal facilities set high charge in order to recover the advertisement charge, otherwise they cannot place advertisement on this magazine and lose market value.
If there are people negative about marriage due to expenses for wedding,

Needless to say, even if we don't hold wedding ceremony, marriage costs more or less -such as moving and legal procedure.
But luxurious wedding is already legacy of bubble era when getting married was expressed as goal-in.
Recently, more and more couples hold small wedding ceremony and a ceremonial dinner with only family members and close friends at reasonable price so did we .
Couples who don't even hold wedding are increasing, too.
Is the rumor I've heard true that some couples hold luxurious wedding ceremonies by parents' vanity?
If engagement breaks off from conflicts over wedding, it's preposterous.
Change of views and values of marriage is another story for today.

-Me? With divine guidance, at the beginning of last year 2018, we agreed to marry .
Husband is a Christian, and obeying his wish, we held a wedding ceremony at a local church he belongs to as a member
-Seen from the point of our country, this might be in the minority.
Many couples at my generation around me start living together and register marriage before wedding ceremony and reception.
But we signed the marriage paper at the wedding ceremony and registered our marriage and became a couple legally, then started living together, in line with the doctrine of Christianity .
It was already hard labor enough for me to prepare marriage procedure and pack for moving at the same time while both of us have each job, so I could have been more than exhausted if we'd had wedding reception and after-party like others.
We didn't go to bridal agencies, and we prepared for wedding ceremony by ourselves while we visited the church regularly for consultation with the Pastor
-Except for ceremonial lunch that my sister arranged for us.
Those series of process made me realize how I've been supported by so many people in my life even while I was under adversity like psychotic depression
-Looking back last year we spent preparing for marriage, I'm really grateful how I've been fortunate.

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