Make Your Positive Life Change Today At The Hertfordshire Wellbeing Centre
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
CBT helps to get your life back on track by breaking down problems into smaller parts, making them easier to cope with creating positive lifestyle changes.
This web page on describing how our cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling works is very thorough in it's content.
You will get a full understanding on how cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling can work for you. Please don't hesitate to call any time if you wish to discuss the therapies for change.
Understanding CBT
Step 1 - Understanding The Problem
Cognitive behavioural therapy is effective treating an array of problems
Paul Allenby
I have treated well over a 3000 clients and this experience has helped me to devise my effective 3 step programme for change with sustainable results.
I am competent with the use of specialist therapies of counselling, hypnotherapy and cognitive behavioural therapy.
I pride myself on the therapy I provide for my clients using effective listening skills, showing empathy and understanding in its nature without judgment.
Registered Therapist
I am a professional, registered and qualified practitioner and a member of the professional bodies listed below.
National Counselling Society (NCS)
General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR)
General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC)
The Complimentary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC)
NHS Directory of Complimentary Practitioners
This web page on describing how our cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling works is very thorough in it's content.
You will get a full understanding on how cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling can work for you. Please don't hesitate to call any time if you wish to discuss the therapies for change.
Understanding CBT
CBT is proactive in helping to create change. Although it is a talking therapy, CBT encourages you to do more than just talk about how you feel and behave.
The specialist CBT counselling at the Life Change Wellbeing Clinic helps people create behavioural change in steps that are both achievable and most importantly sustainable.
The premise behind CBT is that our thoughts and behaviours have an effect on each other, and by changing the way we think and behave - we can ultimately change the way we feel about life.
The therapy examines behaviour we have learnt and negative thought patterns with the view of altering them in a positive way.
Unlike other therapeutic interventions, CBT at the Life Change Wellbeing Clinic is rooted in the present and looks ahead to the future. While past events and experiences are considered during your sessions, the focus is more on current issues and dilemmas.
The specialist CBT counselling at the Life Change Wellbeing Clinic helps people create behavioural change in steps that are both achievable and most importantly sustainable.
The premise behind CBT is that our thoughts and behaviours have an effect on each other, and by changing the way we think and behave - we can ultimately change the way we feel about life.
The therapy examines behaviour we have learnt and negative thought patterns with the view of altering them in a positive way.
Unlike other therapeutic interventions, CBT at the Life Change Wellbeing Clinic is rooted in the present and looks ahead to the future. While past events and experiences are considered during your sessions, the focus is more on current issues and dilemmas.
The 3 stages of CBT that works
Paul Allenby is a skilled and competent therapist and has devised his 3 stages of therapy that not only work but helps his clients to develop the tools to make meaningful change and the skills can be used long after your therapy sessions have finished in the clinic.
The 3 step approach works because we do not aim to just treat the symptom as symptom removal still leaves the underlying cause of the initial problem.
That would be like putting a plaster over the problem hoping it will go away. Sure, you may get short term relief but the problem will come back.
The 3 step approach effectively helps our clients to:
Understand the root cause of their problem.
Change how they think and feel about events and situations.
Make effective and sustainable behavioural change.
The 3 step approach works because we do not aim to just treat the symptom as symptom removal still leaves the underlying cause of the initial problem.
That would be like putting a plaster over the problem hoping it will go away. Sure, you may get short term relief but the problem will come back.
The 3 step approach effectively helps our clients to:
Understand the root cause of their problem.
Change how they think and feel about events and situations.
Make effective and sustainable behavioural change.
Step 1 - Understanding The Problem
As you may have read on other pages it is not actual events that are the problem, it's your minds interpretations to those events that's the real problem. 2 or 3 people could be involved in the same event or situation but they may well see it and think about it differently.
When our mind thinks about things negatively and when we behave negatively, this comes from a belief system that is dysfunctional.
In step 1 of CBT counselling we aim to get to the root cause of the problem. We aim to find out why your mind is thinking the way it is and most importantly why your mind gets you to behave the way you do.
Your mind thinks the way it does because of the way it has been trained to believe certain things and equally it has been trained to react in a certain way to. Lets say you suffer with anxiety. Do you bring on the feelings of anxiety deliberately? Do you say to yourself, "right I am going to feel anxious now"?.
Do you deliberately create negative thoughts or do they just automatically pop in to your head? Whatever your problem or difficulty is, you can be sure that it's not deliberate but an automatic way of thinking and behaving. Your mind believes that your negative thinking is right and certainally believes that the negative behaviour is a positive response for you!
When our mind thinks about things negatively and when we behave negatively, this comes from a belief system that is dysfunctional.
In step 1 of CBT counselling we aim to get to the root cause of the problem. We aim to find out why your mind is thinking the way it is and most importantly why your mind gets you to behave the way you do.
Your mind thinks the way it does because of the way it has been trained to believe certain things and equally it has been trained to react in a certain way to. Lets say you suffer with anxiety. Do you bring on the feelings of anxiety deliberately? Do you say to yourself, "right I am going to feel anxious now"?.
Do you deliberately create negative thoughts or do they just automatically pop in to your head? Whatever your problem or difficulty is, you can be sure that it's not deliberate but an automatic way of thinking and behaving. Your mind believes that your negative thinking is right and certainally believes that the negative behaviour is a positive response for you!
All learned negative beliefs and responses can be successfully reversed.
In the first step of cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling we will get a thorough understanding of how and why your mind interprets things the way it does.
This step will help you to effectively understand your minds positive intent to your thoughts and behaviour even though the outcome is negative.
Until you are able to retrain your mind to see things as they really are, not how your mind interprets them, you will never make sustainable change.
You may have experienced this in the past. You may have said, "right I'm not going to get angry this week", only to find yourself getting angry quite soon after.
This first step in CBT counselling will get to the root of the problem and prepoare you well for the next stage of cognitive behavioural therapy, (challenging your negative thoughts and beliefs).
In the first step of cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling we will get a thorough understanding of how and why your mind interprets things the way it does.
This step will help you to effectively understand your minds positive intent to your thoughts and behaviour even though the outcome is negative.
Until you are able to retrain your mind to see things as they really are, not how your mind interprets them, you will never make sustainable change.
You may have experienced this in the past. You may have said, "right I'm not going to get angry this week", only to find yourself getting angry quite soon after.
This first step in CBT counselling will get to the root of the problem and prepoare you well for the next stage of cognitive behavioural therapy, (challenging your negative thoughts and beliefs).
Step 2 - Challenging Your Negative Thoughts and Beliefs
In step 2 of cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling you will continue with the mind retraining process by successfully challenging your minds interpretations.
You will begin to look for evidence that supports your negative thoughts and beliefs (evidence, not another negative thought!), and at the same time you will be encouraged to stand back and see a situation for what it really is.
So for example; you begin to feel yourself getting frustrated and angry because you are trying to explain something to someone and they are not getting it.
Your mind tells you that they are trying to make you look stupid and you begin to get continually agitated and feel uncomfortable with the negative feelings you experience.
This is your minds belief and it believes that if you get angry, you will take back control of the situation and somehow not look so silly or by getting angry your mind believes that you take a superior role in the situation.
It is your minds way of dealing with the uncomfortable feelings so they go away.
You will begin to look for evidence that supports your negative thoughts and beliefs (evidence, not another negative thought!), and at the same time you will be encouraged to stand back and see a situation for what it really is.
So for example; you begin to feel yourself getting frustrated and angry because you are trying to explain something to someone and they are not getting it.
Your mind tells you that they are trying to make you look stupid and you begin to get continually agitated and feel uncomfortable with the negative feelings you experience.
This is your minds belief and it believes that if you get angry, you will take back control of the situation and somehow not look so silly or by getting angry your mind believes that you take a superior role in the situation.
It is your minds way of dealing with the uncomfortable feelings so they go away.
Remember
this is your subconscious belief pattern not a conscious belief
pattern.
Step 2 of our CBT counselling will successfully help you develop a more rational way of thinking.
You will achieve this because you will stop listening to your negative thoughts, beliefs and interpretations and stand back and see a situation for what it really is.
This step is perfect preperation for the next step of the cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling.
Step 2 of our CBT counselling will successfully help you develop a more rational way of thinking.
You will achieve this because you will stop listening to your negative thoughts, beliefs and interpretations and stand back and see a situation for what it really is.
This step is perfect preperation for the next step of the cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling.
So, with the above example
you are getting frustrated with yourself because you cannot get yourself understood and those frustrations turn to anger when the interpretation is that they are doing it on purpose to make you look silly. Your mind is sending in these messages and you react to them.
By standing back you can successfully stand back and reappraise the situation. Your mind is telling you these things but is there any evidence to prove the thoughts and beliefs?
There generally won't be! So what is really happening then? Quite simply, for whatever reason, the person simply isn't understanding what you are saying.
It's not because you are stupid or silly as your mind is trying to tell you. It could very well be the fact that they just don't understand what you are saying, that they cannot comprehend it.
So with this more rational way of looking at the situation, not only are you challenging 'core beliefs successfully, you are thinking more rationally.
By standing back you can successfully stand back and reappraise the situation. Your mind is telling you these things but is there any evidence to prove the thoughts and beliefs?
There generally won't be! So what is really happening then? Quite simply, for whatever reason, the person simply isn't understanding what you are saying.
It's not because you are stupid or silly as your mind is trying to tell you. It could very well be the fact that they just don't understand what you are saying, that they cannot comprehend it.
So with this more rational way of looking at the situation, not only are you challenging 'core beliefs successfully, you are thinking more rationally.
Step 3 - Making behavioural Changes as You Take Back Control
At this stage of your CBT Counselling you are well on your way to making permanent the changes you are making.
In this step of your cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling you will be constantly practicing challenging your negative thoughts and beliefs to the point where you mind now starts to interpret situations for what they are without you having to think about it.
You will now be putting it all together as you, (and others), will notice the change in you.
Because you will be making these changes in graded steps, the changes can be sustained. You haven't just told yourself to stop being anxious or depressed. You haven't just said to not be angry or fearful or just to stop drinking.
You will make these changes in graded achievable steps. You will develop the confidence step by step to effectively manage situations in a calmer, more rational way...without anxiety.
In this step of your cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling you will be constantly practicing challenging your negative thoughts and beliefs to the point where you mind now starts to interpret situations for what they are without you having to think about it.
You will now be putting it all together as you, (and others), will notice the change in you.
Because you will be making these changes in graded steps, the changes can be sustained. You haven't just told yourself to stop being anxious or depressed. You haven't just said to not be angry or fearful or just to stop drinking.
You will make these changes in graded achievable steps. You will develop the confidence step by step to effectively manage situations in a calmer, more rational way...without anxiety.
The 3 Step Approach Creates Meaningful and
Sustainable Change. These changes will be sustainable because it it something that you have planned for.
It is something that you have worked at and is something you desire and when you put these 3 together...success comes with it. Cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling works...let it work for you.
It is something that you have worked at and is something you desire and when you put these 3 together...success comes with it. Cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling works...let it work for you.
Cognitive behavioural therapy is effective treating an array of problems
and difficulties.
Many people phone the clinic and ask if cognitive behavioural therapy and CBT counselling will work for them.
We are always very honest with our clients and the response is that it may not work for everyone but with our many years clinical experience it has shown to work wherever it is apparent that our negative thoughts and beliefs about a situation affects how we feel and behave.
We are always very honest with our clients and the response is that it may not work for everyone but with our many years clinical experience it has shown to work wherever it is apparent that our negative thoughts and beliefs about a situation affects how we feel and behave.
Paul Allenby
MGHR - MNCS - MCNHC
Hello! My
name is Paul Allenby and I have been in private practice for over 14
years years helping people to find solutions to a whole host of problems and difficulties.
I have treated well over a 3000 clients and this experience has helped me to devise my effective 3 step programme for change with sustainable results.
I am competent with the use of specialist therapies of counselling, hypnotherapy and cognitive behavioural therapy.
I pride myself on the therapy I provide for my clients using effective listening skills, showing empathy and understanding in its nature without judgment.
Registered Therapist
I am a professional, registered and qualified practitioner and a member of the professional bodies listed below.
National Counselling Society (NCS)
General Hypnotherapy Register (GHR)
General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC)
The Complimentary and Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC)
NHS Directory of Complimentary Practitioners
